5 Ways To End The War Between Black Men and Black Women

  1. Apology 

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Assumptions and misconceptions must be acknowledged in order to understand what the other had to deal with and overcome. As we move forward in this time of self-knowledge and self-discovery, it’s vital to acquire the ability to recognize our own mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and we all will do something to hurt another person at some point in our lives. The difference, however, lies acknowledging that we have done something wrong.

2. Forgiveness 

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There are many myths that belittle both Black men and women as worthy relationship partners, if we go through life holding onto resentment and cynicism, this negativity will build and build, ultimately leading to a relationship full of animosity. Discarding Black men and women over unproven stereotypes is foolish.

3. Don’t believe the hype

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There is no “great migration” of Black men to white women. Eighty-eight percent of all Black men who are married are married to Black women, and 93 percent of Black women have Black husbands, according to research by emPower magazine. Since there are 1.8 million more Black women in America than Black men, finding a Black man for every Black woman in the U.S. is statistically difficult.

4. Stop playing the blame game

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“Black women and the media have accused black men, directly and indirectly, of betrayal, insolence and worthlessness. Meanwhile, black men have trivialized black women’s legitimate concerns, while idly and passively allowing researchers and pundits to manipulate numbers to insult their character and integrity. With the support of black women, black men should own and work to correct any shortcomings that marginalize their contribution to the betterment of their community,” according to research byemPower.

5. Educate the Next Generation

The media, especially reality TV shows and other influential media methods, are influencing the minds and perceptions of young Black men and women. For the future of Black relationships, the younger generation needs positive examples of healthy relationships.

 

This article first appeared on Atlanta Black Star by